The #GayElderCircle sends its thoughts and prayers to those affected by the tragedy in Las Vegas last evening.
Domestic violence, intimate partner violence, or partner abuse is a pattern of behavior one person uses over another to systematically gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship. Abuse is not just physical. A person may use emotional, sexual, financial, and/or identity abuse in the relationship to gain control.
According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, people who identify as gay, lesbian, and bisexual experience intimate partner violence at rates equal to or greater than the general population and initial research shows that up to 50% of people who identify as transgender experience domestic violence over their lifetime.
GLBTQ intimate partner violence impacts many relationships, families, and communities. Abusers may use some of the following behavior to gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship.
• Name-calling, insults, or put-downs
• Intimidation, threating with physical harm, blackmail, harassment, or stalking
• Isolation, withholding access to phone and transportation, or constant “checking-in”
• Grabbing, pinching, shoving, hitting, biting, arm-twisting, choking, slapping, or punching
• Withholding access medication, food or fluids, sleep, or forcing alcohol and drug use
• Not respecting sexual boundaries, nonconsensual sex, or withholding sex
• Controlling access to financial resources, withholding money or access to a job, on-the-job harassment, or identity theft
In addition, abusers in GLBTQ relationships may use additional behavior specific to the survivor’s GLBTQ identity, such as:
• Pressuring to out the survivor as GLBTQ to friends, family, work, and other support systems
• Using GLBTQ stereotypes to gain and maintain power and control
• Withholding access to hormones or medication/doctor’s appointments
• Isolating a survivor from GLBTQ communities
• Telling a survivor that nobody will help them because they are GLBTQ
If you are the victim of domestic abuse the Gay Elder Circle encourages you to seek assistance from your local LGBTQ+ Center, or call the national sexual assault hotline 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
The #GayElderCircle brings to your attention a hot topic: the “#AffordableCareAct” (#ACA). The ACA is still alive and kicking. If you or someone you know needs the benefits and/or services provides by the ACA then open enrollment will being on November 1st.
The administration in the White House is suppressing advertising regarding this year’s #OpenEnrollment season by reducing spending on advertising. Open Enrollment sign up period has also been reduced with an early cut off date of December 15th.
We want all of our LGBTQ+ community to be healthy, happy, and participate in regular health, and dental check ups. Contact your nearest Health Department office, or Covered California office for additional information.
(The Gay Elder Circle was not compensated in any way for this post.)
The #GayElderCircle joins in the celebration of the life of Father John J. McNeill. Rev. McNeill was a co-founder of Dignity (Gay Catholics). See full story here from the Miami Heraled: http://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/gay-south-florida/article36352038.html
As our culture is living longer we need to address these issues. There are many among us who have Alzheimer’s, or are a caretaker for someone with Alzheimer’s.
To our knowledge there are no studies on long term AIDS survivors and Alzheimer’s. There are studies during the AIDS crisis of AIDS related dementia. Drugs have been developed to address psychiatric and behavior symptoms.
We need visionaries who can forecast the healthcare needs of the part of our culture who’s long term use of Party N Play (PNP) drugs has yet to be determined. These drugs have already impacted many communities. Observing behavior current PNP users can provide insight into future needs.
We need to make sure our healthcare providers who specialize in Alzheimer’s are LGBTQ+ affirming and have completed cultural competency training.
Signs of Alzheimer’s
– MEMORY LOSS THAT DISRUPTS DAILY LIFE
– CHALLENGES IN PLANNING OR SOLVING PROBLEMS
– DIFFICULTY COMPLETING FAMILIAR TASKS AT HOME, AT WORK OR AT LEISURE
– CONFUSION WITH TIME OR PLACE
– TROUBLE UNDERSTANDING VISUAL IMAGES AND SPATIAL RELATIONSHIPS
– NEW PROBLEMS WITH WORDS IN SPEAKING OR WRITING
– MISPLACING THINGS AND LOSING THE ABILITY TO RETRACE STEPS
– DECREASED OR POOR JUDGMENT
– WITHDRAWAL FROM WORK OR SOCIAL ACTIVITIES
– CHANGES IN MOOD AND PERSONALITY
If you notice any of the 10 Warning Signs of Alzheimer’s in yourself or someone you know, don’t ignore them. Schedule an appointment with your physician.
Bisexual men, and women, are minorities within a minority and experience unique and more extreme forms of discrimination, that may contribute to disparities in things like earnings, educational attainment, and other factors that affect their well-being.
The Gay Elder Circle accepts, and welcomes Bisexual men, and encourages their participation.
The #GayElderCircle meets #PrimeTimers World Wide. In a show of solidarity Gay Elder Circle Member-At-Large, Bill, met with Prime Timers WW President Michael Stone. The two hour meeting included how each organization operates, increasing membership, reaching out to the community, and issues of concern to older Gay and Bi men.
Also, discussed was the, now defunct, Prime Timers Los Angeles and how to resurrect that chapter. Both organizations recognize the need to stay current in social media and how to harness that power. Connecting with Gay and Bi men in a non-sexual forum that promotes Brotherhood, discussion group, and social activities.
Both organizations are concerned about men who feel they are no longer attractive and self-isolate because of their age. Addressing media images of male aging, men’s internal dialog on how they feel about themselves, and being able to discuss these issues in an open and honest environment.
The two hour meeting proved very beneficial for both organizations. Look for contributions from each group to the other group in the near future.
Reported by SAGE:
[NEW YORK, NY] SAGE is deeply saddened to learn of the death of our hero, supporter, and friend, Edie Windsor, on Tuesday, September 12, 2017, at the age of 88. Windsor, known nationally for paving the way for the rights of same-sex couples to marry under federal law, worked tirelessly for her beloved LGBT community and has been a staunch advocate of SAGE, the nation’s largest and oldest organization dedicated to improving the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender elders.
“Words can’t describe how important Edie Windsor is to SAGE and LGBT elders across the country,” says SAGE CEO Michael Adams. “Long before she was a household name, Edie was as an early leader of SAGE, serving multiple terms on our Board of Directors. She shed her brilliant light in every corner of SAGE’s work. She was a trailblazing pioneer in every sense, appearing in an early New York Times ad for SAGE at a time when few others had the courage to be out.
As Edie became an iconic leader for our movement and community through her historic litigation, she always returned home to SAGE, regularly joining fellow elders in activities and programs at our SAGE Centers. All LGBT people will remember and celebrate Edie for her pioneering leadership on marriage equality. We at SAGE will also honor Edie for being our friend, for making SAGE her home for more than three decades, and for being an endless source of inspiration for LGBT elders across the country.”
The #GayElderCircle is raising awareness for National Prostate Cancer Awareness Month.
We encourage all men between the ages of 50-70 to be regularly screened for #ProstateCancer. Most prostate cancer diagnoses occur around age 66. Prostate cancer is not an “old man’s” disease. Younger men may also get Prostate Cancer. African-American men have a higher susceptibility to Prostate Cancer.
Most medical plans, including Medicare, cover the cost of the antigen test during a prostate screening, due to the fact that it is a preventative procedure.
#StandByYourMan for Prostate Health!