Breast Cancer Awareness Month

The #GayElderCircle reminds you its #BreastCancer Awareness Month.

Men can also get breast cancer. Approximately 1% of all breast cancer cases is a man. Male breast cancer is not as widely researched as female breast cancer.

Bumps around the nipple, or a discharge from the nipple can be indicators of male breast cancer. Men’s breast that are misshapen, or are non-matching are also indicators of breast cancer. Diagnosis of male breast cancer usually occurs in men who are in the 60’s.

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National Coming Out Day

The #GayElderCirlce recognizes #NationalComingOutDay (NCOD). We are fortunate in many places in our country we can be who were born to be. Unfortunately, as the same time there are portions of our country were many are not safe being who they are.

This year we take a look back at #QuentinCrisp who was “Out” before there was an “In”. Quentin lived his life his way, on his terms. At times a rocky life, however, Quentin held true and fast to his self being.

Whatever your style, story, or age live it to the fullest you can.

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Indigenous People’s Day

The #GayElderCircle honors #IndigenousPeoplesDay. The recognition of our nations First People is past due. The Gay Elder Circle seeks out the wisdom of all our elders. We have been fortunate to have a member share the wisdom from the #FirstNation.

The Gay Elder Circle has reached out to our Native American community by hosting an information table at the “Celebration of All Life and Creation Pow Wow” hosted by the #RedCircleProject. At the Pow Wow there is an sharing of knowledge and discussions of the role of Elders in our community.

“Live your life so that the fear of death can never enter your heart.
Trouble no man about his religion respect him, and his views, and demand that he respect yours.
Love your life, perfect your life.
Beautify all things in your life.
Seek to make your life long and of service to your people.
Show respect to all men, and grovel to none.
When your arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light, for your life and strength.
Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living.
If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault is yours.”
– Tecumsch – Shawnee Warrior/Chief


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Long-Term Care: LGBTQ+ Bill of Rights

The #GayElderCircle is glad to announce Governor Brown signed #SB219 – #LGBTQ #BillofRights in #LongTermCare Facilities.

SB-219 Long-term care facilities: rights of residents.

(a) Except as provided in subdivision (b), it shall be unlawful for a long-term care facility or facility staff to take any of the following actions wholly or partially on the basis of a person’s actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) status:

(1) Deny admission to a long-term care facility, transfer or refuse to transfer a resident within a facility or to another facility, or discharge or evict a resident from a facility.

(2) Deny a request by residents to share a room.

(3) Where rooms are assigned by gender, assigning, reassigning, or refusing to assign a room to a transgender resident other than in accordance with the transgender resident’s gender identity, unless at the transgender resident’s request.

(4) Prohibit a resident from using, or harass a resident who seeks to use or does use, a restroom available to other persons of the same gender identity, regardless of whether the resident is making a gender transition or appears to be gender-nonconforming. Harassment includes, but is not limited to, requiring a resident to show identity documents in order to gain entrance to a restroom available to other persons of the same gender identity.

(5) Willfully and repeatedly fail to use a resident’s preferred name or pronouns after being clearly informed of the preferred name or pronouns.

(6) Deny a resident the right to wear or be dressed in clothing, accessories, or cosmetics that are permitted for any other resident.

(7) Restrict a resident’s right to associate with other residents or with visitors, including the right to consensual sexual relations, unless the restriction is uniformly applied to all residents in a nondiscriminatory manner. This section does not preclude a facility from banning or restricting sexual relations, as long as the ban or restriction is applied uniformly and in a nondiscriminatory manner.

(8) Deny or restrict medical or nonmedical care that is appropriate to a resident’s organs and bodily needs, or provide medical or nonmedical care in a manner that, to a similarly situated reasonable person, unduly demeans the resident’s dignity or causes avoidable discomfort.

(b) This section shall not apply to the extent that it is incompatible with any professionally reasonable clinical judgment.

(c) Each facility shall post the following notice alongside its current nondiscrimination policy in all places and on all materials where that policy is posted:

“[Name of facility] does not discriminate and does not permit discrimination, including, but not limited to, bullying, abuse, or harassment, on the basis of actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or HIV status, or based on association with another individual on account of that individual’s actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or HIV status. You may file a complaint with the Office of the State Long-Term Care Ombudsman [provide contact information] if you believe that you have experienced this kind of discrimination.”


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National Depression Screening Day

The #GayElderCircle is raising awareness for #NationalDepressionScreeningDay.

Gay and Bisexual Men suffer higher rates of loneliness, depression, and suicide. Quite often they have no one the can speak with, or know where to turn to during episodes of depression.

Joining a men’s social group can be a good place to start. A place to speak with fellow men in a non-judgmental space, however not all men’s groups are suited for this. It can be difficult to find a men’s group that is willing to converse on critical topics.

We encourage Gay and Bisexual men to seek out mental support at their local LGBTQ+ Center. You can take an online depression screening test at , and also seek out resources.

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

The #GayElderCircle is joining in the conversation on #DomesticViolence Awareness Month.

Domestic violence, intimate partner violence, or partner abuse is a pattern of behavior one person uses over another to systematically gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship. Abuse is not just physical. A person may use emotional, sexual, financial, and/or identity abuse in the relationship to gain control.

According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, people who identify as gay, lesbian, and bisexual experience intimate partner violence at rates equal to or greater than the general population and initial research shows that up to 50% of people who identify as transgender experience domestic violence over their lifetime.

GLBTQ intimate partner violence impacts many relationships, families, and communities. Abusers may use some of the following behavior to gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship.

• Name-calling, insults, or put-downs
• Intimidation, threating with physical harm, blackmail, harassment, or stalking
• Isolation, withholding access to phone and transportation, or constant “checking-in”
• Grabbing, pinching, shoving, hitting, biting, arm-twisting, choking, slapping, or punching
• Withholding access medication, food or fluids, sleep, or forcing alcohol and drug use
• Not respecting sexual boundaries, nonconsensual sex, or withholding sex
• Controlling access to financial resources, withholding money or access to a job, on-the-job harassment, or identity theft

In addition, abusers in GLBTQ relationships may use additional behavior specific to the survivor’s GLBTQ identity, such as:

• Pressuring to out the survivor as GLBTQ to friends, family, work, and other support systems
• Using GLBTQ stereotypes to gain and maintain power and control
• Withholding access to hormones or medication/doctor’s appointments
• Isolating a survivor from GLBTQ communities
• Telling a survivor that nobody will help them because they are GLBTQ

If you are the victim of domestic abuse the Gay Elder Circle encourages you to seek assistance from your local LGBTQ+ Center, or call the national sexual assault hotline 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.


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Affordable Care Act

The #GayElderCircle brings to your attention a hot topic: the “#AffordableCareAct” (#ACA). The ACA is still alive and kicking. If you or someone you know needs the benefits and/or services provides by the ACA then open enrollment will being on November 1st.

The administration in the White House is suppressing advertising regarding this year’s #OpenEnrollment season by reducing spending on advertising. Open Enrollment sign up period has also been reduced with an early cut off date of December 15th.

We want all of our LGBTQ+ community to be healthy, happy, and participate in regular health, and dental check ups. Contact your nearest Health Department office, or Covered California office for additional information.


(The Gay Elder Circle was not compensated in any way for this post.)

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